You're in your mid-twenties. You move apartments every year. Your job isn't necessarily something you see yourself doing long-term. Life is pretty up in the air, an awkward in-between. Hello, quarter life crisis.
It's so hard, especially in today's digital age, to see everyone seemingly living a life you could only imagine. Social media feeds are filled with people jet-setting to new places, excitedly boasting about their dream career move they just landed, wearing stylish clothes that cost more than your rent, and getting married to their partner in a picturesque ceremony. Seeing things like this make me wonder if I'm living stagnantly, living behind schedule. Aren't I supposed to have it all together by now? I definitely thought I would.
Truth is, some days I feel like I don't have any of my life on the right track. On the flip side, on social media, I come across as put-together. In reality, my car is a disaster. I oversleep just about every morning. I roll out of bed every day, throw on some random clothes, work my day job, come home, go to bed, and then do it all over again the next day. Sometimes I hit a rut and lose motivation. There's gotta be more, right?
I've found that the answer is both yes and no. There's more, but it's not necessarily what we see on social media or have perceived for ourselves. More happens between career moves and international travels and relationships. As cliche as it sounds, life happens in the in-betweens. The nights spent laughing with friends in the living room with a bottle of wine and a bowl of buffalo chicken dip. The rides to your hometown from your new town with the music on and the windows down. The days in the backyard with a good book and your pup. The Saturday mornings with a hot cup of coffee and time to de-stress. It's all about perspective.
There is so much pressure on young people to choose the path they want for the rest of their lives, but the world is changing. We don't necessarily need to know what our plans are at this exact moment. We have time to slow down and take each moment as it comes at us. As much as I think I would love to have my entire life planned, I know that isn't what's meant for me. Instead of planning and worrying and overthinking, I'm going to pace myself, take in the meaningful moments of life, and welcome the fact that I don't have it all together.
One of my best friends recently sent this powerful quote in our group message and it resonated with all of us.
She's strong willed and independent, she's as beautiful inside as she is out.
I'm not going to compare my life with social media highlights, accomplishments, or possessions. I'm going to focus on the in-betweens. Instead of planning, I'm going to change my perspective. I'm going to do it right.
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